I recently posted a poll on LinkedIn asking the question, "What is keeping you from achieving that one special goal of yours?" This poll generated 14 responses. This is the final blog discussing the results of that poll.
- I don't know where to start
- I don't have the money
- I don't have the time
- I have no special goal
This one sounds like the person needs to make some time for some more personal reflection or introspection or maybe he just needs to make some more time for himself. It is no big surprise that a middle aged male may be lacking drive. This is perfect "mid-life crisis" time.
The reason I suggest reflection or introspection is because this response is generating a lot of questions in my mind that need answering. Since they answered that they don't have the drive instead of the answer I have no special goal, I am working on the assumption that they at least do have a goal.
Questions that come to mind are, is the problem the goal itself? Is it not compelling enough for you? Does it not stimulate you? Maybe you need to change the goal. Is it to overwhelming? Is this something that you really want? Have you put a date around it? If you have no deadline, that goal can seem to just keep slipping farther and farther into the future and seem like it is never-attainable. Put a due date on it. What about the steps to achieving the goal? Have you broken it down? Have you put deadlines on the steps of the goal?
Another thing that comes to mind is your attitude toward the goal or maybe even your attitude toward yourself. Are you telling yourself that you never achieve your goals? Are you telling yourself that you do not deserve to achieve this goal? Are you telling yourself that you don't have the skills to achieve this goal? Are you letting your own negative self-talk get in the way? Are you listening to your detractors?
One thing that I am willing to bet is that if you say you don't have the drive, you are probably not taking action. Remember, I say that a goal that you don't tell anyone about is called a SECRET! And secrets you keep with yourself are very SAFE! I say start telling people about your goal, (and the more, the merrier), and start telling some of those people your deadlines. Use them to help create accountability for yourself. Once you commit to action to another person, it is amazing how easy it is to get into action! Start taking the steps, recognize and acknowledge your progress, (and I would even say REWARD yourself for your effort), and I am willing to bet that your missing drive will suddenly start showing up. My guess is that it has been there all along. It just wasn't being utilized.
Good luck!
And Remember, YOUR Possibilities are ENDLESS!
Tom Maher
The Possibilities Coach
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